Divorce is a challenging and stressful process that can provoke a wide range of emotions. You may be able to handle the settlement procedure on your own, but it might be incredibly stressful. A divorce mediator’s job is to assist the divorcing parties in mutually negotiating a settlement regarding their children, assets, and debt.
A divorce mediator is neutral, works with both spouses, and assists them in developing a precise strategy for their divorce. Although divorce is never simple, there are certain things you can do to make the process go more smoothly. Follow these tips to make your Alberta divorce mediation successful.
Know Why Divorce Mediation Is Important
It’s common for divorcing couples to mix up mediation with couples therapy. Mediation should be viewed as a future-oriented conversation to establish an amicable divorce settlement that puts both couples on the best route forward.
Unlike couples therapy, which aims to address problems within a romantic relationship, mediation assumes that the romantic part of your relationship has ended. As a result, you should not use meditation time to focus on previous problems. Skilled mediators will shift the focus from the past to the future.
At some point throughout the mediation process, you or your spouse will have to talk regarding distributing marital assets and liabilities. During this process, you might experience some opposition to giving up certain assets or agreeing to pay a specific amount.
Remember that the divorce settlement talks are a time for both spouses to share their individual stories about how each item was acquired and why each spouse feels he or she deserves it. Don’t take such discussions personally.
Share Everything Necessary
Sharing information allows the mediator and the other spouse to better understand your situation. Both spouses must reveal all of their assets and obligations so that the mediator may develop an agenda for what to discuss.
Furthermore, there is a substantial risk that suppressing essential facts during mediation would be construed as fraud, allowing the opposing spouse to effectively set aside (cancel) a divorce decision.
Consider The Other Party’s Concerns
The principle of compromise is key to the divorce mediation process. It is about both parties reaching an arrangement that they can both live with as they go ahead into the next phase of their lives.
It’s also about seeing beyond your own selfish interests and considering what decisions would be beneficial for both individuals in a particular circumstance. This is a win-win situation that most individuals struggle to achieve in their relationships, let alone their legal ones.
Don’t Hold Negative Emotions
The divorce process can be a very stressful and upsetting period. You can experience a lot of anxiety, rage, and resentment if you’re going through a divorce. These feelings are reasonable, but they aren’t useful in your situation.
Your kids might feel uncomfortable and try to take sides or behave inappropriately, which will only make matters worse for everyone. Not only for your children but also you and the other parent, you want the divorce to go as smoothly as possible.
Take Time To Listen Before Speaking
This seems obvious, yet it is frequently overlooked during intensely heated circumstances such as divorce mediation. Understand that effective mediators will allow both couples to speak.
Therefore, if you interrupt your spouse, you can almost always be sure that the mediator will advise you to stop and will refocus on the spouse who was interrupted so that they can continue their idea. Interruptions are, therefore, a waste of time.
Furthermore, interruptions are frequently interpreted as attacks and put your spouse on the defensive, making it more difficult to achieve a collaborative agreement in the best interests of yourself and your children. Take note of what the mediator is asking.
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